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Saturday, December 10, 2011

What does!

Have been crazyy...Have been wild..
Have been fun all the while..
have sometimes thought way too much
and sometimes..have taken a decision just like that..

I wonder what is life to me??
I wonder where it is taking me?
What is that interests me?
Do i know that still or..

Well. i don't have answers..
Have my insecurities, have my opinions..
Have all it takes to fall down..and then..get up again..
Have love and life...
and wonder is all that matters?
If not, what does??

Tuesday, November 22, 2011


hmm...just today this dawned upon me..that u never really fail in life....u fail when u accept your defeat and you close yourself to any other opportunities that come across..but the more you are willing to accept the situation as it is, the more would you be able to see opportunities...

and by experience..i know...the alternative that you take is generally more beautiful than the original option! you just never realised it!

Monday, November 14, 2011

Beat the Blues!! STRESSS BUSTERS! that exactly...and quite literally...BEAT the stress out of your life!!BEAT ITTT!!How?? Here we go...My tried and tested whacky ideas..They always work!!
1) Drink! alcohol, tea, juice whatever suits you..just sip it up!!yess..just ensure that you have switched off that non stop machine on your shoulders...and look around and enjoy the surroundings!

2)Leave being a Bathroom singer and come out and croon to glory! My take whacky, enthusiastic, rockingggggg, cracking songs....songs that will make you sinnggg along, shout at the top of your voice...just go plain crazzzyyy...stop being just a bathroom singer..let the world feel your glorry!

3)playing is not for is for the child within us: my fav..ludo..cheat man...just play twisted and enjoy the mayhem thereafter...A game a day...keeps the stress awayy!

4)Creativity is not for closets! Do something whacky...cook a new dish..with new combinations...create a dress out of your already existing one...just do it! or may be create awesome or not so awesome art work out of waste...just put your stress to better use!

5)And what is called OSHO mad not worry about..the steps or the performance..what the is meant for you..not for anyone else..make noise..have fun..go wild!!

all these work wonders for me..may be they work for you too!!

Friday, October 21, 2011

the recruting Blunder!

Phew!!!1 the last few days have been killing!!Has made me realise a few things...

In a country full of zillion ppl looking for employment opportunities, ppl who are educated, sometimes, very well educated..don't end up getting jobs..They have to wait endlessly to any company to respond to their applications.

Ppl say there are consultants who would take care of this, however, being from HR, i know...that none of the consultants take up the segment of junior level appointments..mainly because..companies pay them peanuts for such profiles...which means that there is no AID to these freshers who may not have graduated from the best colleges!

Business wise, i look at this as a huge opportunity and a need...that ppl are reluctant to look at!

What this kind of approach overlooks is the fact that intelligence is not all about education..I have witnessed utmost intelligence , sensitivity and willingess to do something in most of the colleges which may not be your BEST colleges..!
I believe HR doesn't have any other option.this seems like a perfect way to sieve through plethors of applications that pour in.However, this is what i feel..A CV is just paper...may be ...talking could be better..could give you a better picture..
So next time you outrightly reject a CV, look for pointers which tell you about the person and not the paper alone!

Sunday, September 11, 2011

True friendship!

Having one friend who makes life easier for there zillions of time inspite of you being cranky..irritated worth all the loneliness that a sea of fake friends can bestow you with!
If you have managed to differentiate between the chaff and the grain, you are lucky...since you have given your life reasons to be happy and alive forever....
Lucky you!!

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Shalini-The Ice Princess II

She was rushed to the hospital immediately.All Doctors could say, "We will try our best."And they did try their best and that is why she -the ice princess was alive......alive..although the reason for her living had gone...She was on wheelchair now, since both her legs had been amputated!

The world had come crashing on her...and may be on everyone around her....

Now she was alive and she had to be thankful for the fact that God was kind enough for her to be alive...but the truth was she wasn't! She wasn't thankful for this life..she wasn't thankful for not being able to achieve everything she had ever all her all tears...she couldn't refute the fact..that she was handicapped....forever may be..

Lost in her thoughts one day...she saw something that struck her fancy. right across the window, down on the street was a limbless child dancing away to glory to earn some money.What struck her was his face....She had seen many poor children perform all sort of gimmicks to get some money..but this one was different....this one wasn't all..for everyone...yeasss..he wasn't dancing for everyone..he was dancing for himself...with whatever energy he could muster..he was dancing for himself..and in that display of passion....he reflected a deep sense of peace known only to a few...privileged few...!

"Wow", thought she to herself," Where does he find energy to do that? His peace is infectious.."

and then suddenly.....she stopped ....looked around...and went straight to her pink lappy lying right there on the side table.

A year Later....


Triumphant and ecstatic, Shalini was asked..what gave her the zeal and the motivation to achieve this?

Shalini responded....with a smile of gratitude........."Infectious peace"!!

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Shalini-The Ice Princess!

"Is this supposed to be a joke???" said Amit on hearing about Shalini's accident!" "You are kidding me1 Man! Shalini is the best ice skater in this in the world can she get hurt?" Vani stood there shaking...not knowing how to respond to Amit! She too knew all this..however...She knew the truth too...which was that Shalini had lost both her legs ..!!

Shalini was a graceful Ice skater...She made everything around look so still when she took to the skating seemed as if Ice was her playground where she lost all her inhibitions and transformed into a beautiful diva...Every turn and twist would make the audiences' heart skip a beat!
nnnnnnnnnnnnn------sssssssssssssssss.......shuuuuuuuuu...up...up..up..round........up in the air ...and then ..thud.....perfect landing..and a perfect applause!

Shalini was used to this appreciation..this was her life..She loved this life more than anything else..She loved the attention, the perfection..just about everything..but most importantly she loved..herself in that state..purely amalagamated with herself..totally pure.....

But then one day, when she was rolling up in the air...something crossed her mind.." of can't go to this college of skating..what do you think You are gonna do with this sort of degree..?? you are in India..and this skating n all is good for entertainment..not for a decent living here...prepare for MBA or something like that...make a living!We do not want you to be mocked at!have i made myself clear???".."Yes sir", said she lost in oblivion and then................................


Silence was broken by the sudden sound of a ambulance.She was lying there..right there...STIll....absolutely STILL!

To be Continued............

Learnings @ 19th July 2011

1)You can make the most of your dreams come just need to believe that they will come true and look out for opportunities around u...i am how..we tend to always...always...forget to look around us! answers r right there!

2) Never underestimate a person, situation or yourself...Being humble will always pay!

3) A friend is one who loves you inspite of differences,does not forget to call on your important occasions even if that means a text, somebody who always knows how to pick up the thread from it was last left.. and my blessed to have a few friends like that.

4)Be grateful for whatever you have...gratitude and gratitude alone can make more of such things come to you..the more genuinely thankful you are..the more you get..that's a basic law!

5)love is not about expectations..can never be..expectations happen to be burdens, obligations which can not ever be substituted for love...if u can truly be with somebody without any expectations..u r a true lover...and yes..this is damn difficult!haven't been able to achieve this so far...

6) God is all around signs, in us, in just about everything...god is that perfect smile that u get when u just say a heartfelt thank you!However, u need to have eyes for seeing God around....

7)I am thankful for the life that i have,will always be..coz god has given me means to be somebody who can make a difference..small or big..whatever!

Thursday, July 14, 2011

One tight slap!!

the scene had an old man walking upto a police commissioner and asking," are you the police commissioner?" yes, says the cop.SLAAAAAAAAAAPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP.............

Stunned...the place is quiet..the people are shocked..Did he actually hit the top honcho? Is he out of his mind??

"Pichle teen mahine se apni poti ko dhund rha hu..hazaro chakkar laga chuka police thane ke...koi kuch madad nhi krta...humari poti koi kisi amir ki beti toh thi nhi na..isiliye...koi madad nhi mili hume aapse!!"

Immediately the top cop ordered his officers to start looking for the girl.

Makes me think..i takes a thunderous slap right across the face to make things work make government realise..that we are fed up of this bull shit of waiting till the terrorists strike and then behave as if this was the best they could have come up with!

may be....we all need to gear up for that thunderous slap!!
please note THUNDEROUS!!

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

The Block in the head!! KILL IT!

Well..well..well...Haven't we all heard this umpteen times in our lives? "I have a Mental Block....i seem to be going nowhere in life" " I know what my issues are, but, somehow, i just seem to be stuck..i can't move beyond it....
Well...for everyone who is experiencing the same...u deserve to know certain things...and what are these?
Follow this:
1) A lotta people are in the same boat, Even the super intelligent, super-wow ones..yes! They are sailing in the same boat! they have their share of BLOCKS and can't seem to be getting anywhere!( Well, doesn't that make u feel better??))

2) Divert your mind!! Why waste your time on cribbing and crying about this thing you are stuck in! Instead ..use your energies to focus on something else..something productive, something interesting, whacky! something that excites you...or simply keeps you happy!!

3) Remember! The mental block is just mental! and only way to get thru it is by denying it totally and believing to a sentence like..i have a mental block ..i can't do this..try something like" Hey i can do this..what's the big deal?" Keep on repeating that to you and check out for will start feeling better!

4) Make an effort: Get out of that rut....Just stop thinking and get to work..whatever u like doing..whatever needs u..get to it..DO NOT THINK...just work and soon u would see the results..

Rome wasn't won in a day and may be this just takes more than a day..but give it your best shot...u know that..i do not need to repeat....We alone can make a difference in our lives!

So stay Alert and Alive!!

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

The Secret!

This book makes me go crazy....I love every aspect of it..most importantly, the fact that it tries to make: Your life is what you want it to be ...It is totally Your creation....Your baby!
I love the confidence and trust it builds ...and the perspective that it sets!
Initially, belief was kind of an issue...but when i look back..I realise....that my life actually has been...what i really and desperately wanted....some things that i kept on repeating to myself..actually happened to a very simple, unassuming manner... took its own the end of day..i got what i wanted...Imagine the power that we have....this book just set things into perspective...
Now i realised.. the age old " Think Positive" maxim makes a hell lot of think get can' be thinking negative and receiving positive...that's against the basic law of attraction of this universe!

Well.. this is what i have decided..i am gonna consciously try this out with something very strongly on my mind these days..and will share the results as well..soon!

Till then..take control...dream Big to achieve big..that's THE secret for you all!!

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

excerpt from OSHO!

If you can love, meditation will be very easy. The world will be more
religious if love is accepted, helped along, and love becomes a
natural milieu around you. Then meditation will be very easy because
you will know a taste through love of what it means to be dissolved,
even if only for a single moment. Then you can dare to be dissolved
for longer moments.

And if you can love, you will not be afraid of death. Lovers are
never afraid of death. And if a person is afraid of death, you can be
certain that he has not loved and he has not been loved. The fear of
love shows that the life has been without love. Lovers are ready to
die very easily. They can die for each other. They do not care much
about so-called life because they have known a higher quality of life;
they have known a higher life. They do not care about this life very

But look at persons who have never loved. They will always be afraid
of death. Look at misers: they will always be afraid of death. And
misers are those persons who have not loved anyone because if you can
love a person you will never love money. Money is a substitute. When
you cannot love an individual, when you cannot love a live person, you
love dead money.

Misers, those who go on clinging to their possessions, are not even
acquainted with what love is. Their whole love has gone to dead money.
And why has it gone? There are deeper connections. A person who is too
much attached to money will be afraid of death. Really, a person who
is afraid of death will love money too much because money seems to be
a protection against death. If you have money you feel protected. If
you do not have any money you feel unprotected. Death can occur and
you cannot do anything. With money you feel that you can do something.
Money will be helpful.

A person who loves will not love money because a person who loves
will not be afraid of death. And if a person is not afraid of death,
there cannot be any clinging, attachment, mad obsession with money. It
is impossible. If you can love, then you will accept death very
easily. It will be a deep relaxation, a long sleep, a beautiful
dissolution into the existence. And if you can be receptive to death,
then meditation can be as easy as anything. The problem arises because
love is not there. When death has become a fear, then meditation will
be difficult because it is both love plus death. It is death as far as
your ego is concerned; it is love as far as the divine existence is

I define meditation in a mathematical formula: meditation is equal to
love plus death – love to the existence, to the total, and death to
the ego. They are both two aspects of the same coin because you can
love the total only if you are ready to lose the individual. If you
are ready to die, only then can you be reborn as the existence, as the

Jesus says, ”Only if you lose can you survive. And those who try to
survive will be lost.” It is hard because you have not loved; it is
hard because you have not lived. It is not hard by itself. Meditation
by itself is very easy – a spontaneous phenomenon. If a human being
evolves naturally, falls into love, knows what love is, knows what
type of death and what type of life love is, comes out of it, knows
the taste of moving into and being in death, then he will love death
– not as being against life. Death changes the quality then. Then it
becomes the last point in life, the highest peak, the climax of life.
Then meditation is very easy.

Those of you who are ready to lose can understand it; it is very
easy. Those of you who are not ready to lose cannot understand it.

Source – Osho Book “The Supreme Doctrine”

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Beautiful Smiles!

Sometimes, when i look at these children at almost every red light in Delhi, the only thought that hits me is ...why them...why are they supposed to run like that in the hot and cruel summers of Delhi and the bone chilling winters...Why hasn't life been a li'l more kind to them..?

I get no answers...however, i do get abundant advise..on how should never give away money to them.."it is a racket, they take drugs..." and what not...My only belief while giving away these alms/food/water is when i am hungry, i enter a Ms Donalds or a Haldirams and easily spend more than 150-200 at a single Would giving away rs 10 be too much???

Yes, i agree! that there would be children who would use this for all sorts of shit..however can that statement alone feed thousands of children standing out there in the heat?? May be not..may be there is a child who would value your 5 rupee/Food/water more than anything..may be he is hungry!

For all of those who do not believe in giving away alms..try a better time whenever you have food in a restaurant, do not waste the food, get it packed and give away to somebody on the street!Next time whenever you eat an icecream and you see a child eyeing not ignore him..let him have an Ice cream too...and next time when you some girl trying to sell you flowers at a red light, take wouldn't do you much harm..but it might just make her and your wife/girlfriend/friends happy!

So here's to a beautiful tomorrow.for these children!

Friday, April 1, 2011


I am suddenly upto trying something on my own...i feel very weird..coz this was not something that ever featured on my radar! i was never to be an entrepreneur....never thought it was in my blood...i was always a job who was happy with a good income coming home everyday...

I don't know what has changed? Why this sudden overwhelming feeling of being on my own..although this is still at the ideation stage..but the very fact that m thinking on these kinda weird..or may be different!

I could never be an entrepreneur coz generally people who start up on their own have a passion for a particular thing and they just go for it..but i have been different, not because i don't have passion for a particular thing but because i love too many things..i have passion for many things, causes and what not..that is pretty difficult to narrow down on any one "passion"..;)))

phew!!! but here I am..with these thoughts which are obviously more than random!!
Surely life is being possessive about it!!

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Prof Mirchandani!


The day for me started with a news..Didn't like the sudden surge of SMs on suddenly upset to know about Prof.

So what have i do with Prof Mirchandani apart from the fact that he was a marketing prof at my college?why do i suddenly feel this urge to share my thoughts?

Well, i don't know him much as a professor who taught a topic, but i do happen to have been taught by him,not a subect or a topic, but a very basic lesson of live life the fullest and to ensure that you let people be!

So, once while randomly sharing a conversation with him on the essence of love marriages,he happened to tell me...that he got his daughter married to a muslim.( that, ironically becomes such a taboo for so many ppl in our country)..because that's what she wanted to do!adding to it, he said something that i would never forget.."What kind of a father have I been, if i have not been able to teach my daughter how to take the decision of who should she be marrying for herself?"........

Very simple..but how thought provoking! I hadn't heard something like that ever..i hadn't ever seen any parent trying to put across the fact that his child's life is his own and not the parent's! I hadn't seen this kind of trust that he had in his upbringing in anyone else........

What did i learn that day???

I learnt, to be myself forever, to let everyone else be ensure that you take responsibility for your decisions in life and try not taking decisions for others....i learnt ..that life is worth living and is very simple...there's nothing complicated about all depends on the way you take it......

and above all...i happened to realise that being unconventional takes a lot of has its own upsides and downsides....u gotta know the consequences of the same ....and most of would turn out to be the most satisfying decision you ever took for yourself....!!

Whenever,these thoughts of trying something different surface in me...i Mirchandani might have a role to play.....miss you sir!!

The Prof might have gone, but his spirit lives on...through many of us...who believed in him!

Saturday, March 19, 2011

holi hai!!

colours!!! The mayhem of colours....the festival that comes tomorrow..defines the true Indian spirit....of unity in diversity...of being unique in our own way and yet being a smooth part of this culture called indianism!

colours are is our country....bright colours...misty rains...golden deserts, calm beaches...majestic mountains...colourful bangles, gliterring gold,,,vivid people, situations, even the damn masala dani has vibrant colours!!

so, here's for the lovely country we belong to..and the lovely festival that's coming up!! Happy holi!!

Friday, March 18, 2011

Roller Coaster-of a life!!: Exploration!! believing your instincts!!

Roller Coaster-of a life!!: Exploration!! believing your instincts!!

Exploration!! believing your instincts!!

M on a new..absolutely stunning journey..towards self exploration these days...
so..yes..the life seems chaotic these days..totally chaotic...coz there are so many many unanswered questions...that your head is brimming with thought all the time!

So what am i exploring these feelings, my happiness, my unfulfilled career, my expression, my love,almost everything that life has to offer. It is indeed a very deep journey into myself..of figuring out..what actually makes me happy..why do i get sad? which ppl affect me..and why?? why do i make comparisons..and with whom?? why doesn't a moment of blissful silence of a silent mind remain forever??what am i here for?? what is that i wanna do?? what gives me a high?? Do i have the courage to take it through??

Uff..these and many more that keep on coming my way...but one thing is for sure..the greater i am exploring these..the closer I am coming to true true self without any hassles..without any masks..without any fear whatsoever...It is indeed gonna be some journey!

So what's the latest where i have trusted my instincts is..quitting my job and becoming a trainer..a trainer is a glamorous word for a teacher..( ironically we all happen to believe that a teacher is only a school teacher!!)So basically I am teaching, to who so ever happens to require my guidance at whatever level i can..and in the process am learning myself!i have started firmly believing in the maxim " When a student is ready, the master appears"!!i don't know who is the student and master in this case..that is what time would unveil!

This experience has undoubtedly bought me the satisfaction that i have been looking for years...the feeling of you being able to make a difference, may be only to one student..but yes..u made a difference! is just awesome...and that is where i guess my life had to bring me..coz something within me was always creating this..looking for this..

and..yes..the sense of relief that you get once you are on your own is much more than the so called security that a Corporate MNC offers you...they obvioulsy don't secure you..they work more on making you insecure..about your career, your package and yes your status...and eventually manage to kill that uniqueness in you..coz you become part of the so many others!!

So exploration and the awesome feeling post it...makes me wanna go for more..try out horizons that have always been dreams..but could never become a reality for me....

m out there..!! having fun!!

Monday, March 14, 2011

A girl!

Fascinated....attracted and completely floored by the guy next door, she quipped to herself.."should i?? should i not??"-the same old question again flipped through her mind..once again...

She had been trying to convince him of her love for him for months now.but all he could do in response, is...flirt with other PYTs of office! It frustrated her,killed something deep inside her..but she was not the one to lose hope...afterall..she loved him and he loved her where was the question of him leaving her? this was just a passing phase and one day..he would also realise his love for her!

So she walked very quietly to him and almost whispered.."hey, i was wondering if we could talk over a cup of coffee..??.."oh! why not" he replied.Anyways, i had to talk about something important to you." "Ok then," said she, "6 it is." "He would definitely apologise for last night...he obviously didn't mean all those ugly things...he was just a little high!" She thought to herself..rather naively!

At 6, she was waiting at the coffee shop right below...her eyes..gazing through..the crowd..trying to figure him out...and then..he came....walked upto her slowly..
She was waiting for this moment...wasn't she?

Ah..yes...good..that i caught hold of you...i just wanted to tell is my engagement party..m getting married to that know..the girl in your team...u have to be there...!!

The world seemed shattered suddenly...nothing..absolutely nothing...seemed right..she felt losing control of herself....something was weird..yes....she was everyone was just...gazing at her...even the girl passing by...seemed shocked..she didn't understand.......or may be she did........she was choking.....!!..Dying actually..............

She opened her eyes...and saw him beside her...she couldn't believe it..she was happy..immensely happy....He hugged her.."Wat happened honey, are you alright?"
She looked around...everything seemed familiar..totally familiar...oh! thought she...this is my bedroom...and..and.......this......

With a deep sense of relief......looked at him....held his hand and dropped a tear!

"Thank god! not all dreams come true..." she thought to herself and kissed her beloved husband..goodmorning!

A beautiful beginning of a beautiful life!!

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Who am i??

This thought provokes me day and night..makes me go into oblivion for hours...makes me go crazy...and sometimes makes me cry...!!
Am i this free spirited life..who wants to fly away in every direction that life takes it to or a responsible, mature , puts conditions one after the another for me...more like a gravel path heading towards your own grave...

Am i the one who would want to enjoy the sight of a twinkle on a leaf..on a bright sunny day after a slush of fierce rain shower..or ..a person who would first wait for grass to get green to enjoy that experience??

Am i the one who would fall in love...rejoice..enjoy...and just be...or the one who would fall in love and then defy it by creating conditions around it?

Ami the one who would learn the art of renouncement and detachment and the beauty related to it...the beauty of not being affected..not being hurt..or the one...who will kill most of the time in figuring out the why's and how's of life...

Am i the one who would find purpose...aim in everything or the one who would make everything that comes across in life a purpose in itself...??

Am i the one who would..someday...learn...the art of being in state of absolute happiness...or the one who would let the life pass without ever even getting close to it??

What is that defines me??? What ...who am i??
Who are you???

Monday, February 14, 2011

Education ruined me!!

I am wondering more n more these days as to what is happening to the Education in our country?? a country which once was the place of holistic education...and gurukuls..and now landed itself in ever growing frenzy of money and fame seeking schools..where everything else apart from education is delivered.

What provoked this thought in me??

Went to a premium school of Delhi today..just to see so called education ruing young minds..may be the statement " i was born intelligent, education ruined me.." is totally come true in our context!

These kids may be grt at english, maths, science and other important subjects...but they have lost a life..that we had once...yes...we were naughty, didn't care too much about our teachers...laughed our way in class...however, there still were parts of us..who would adore a teacher for lifetime...or..still have the courtesy of understanding that the school reputation is over and above everything else....

The question is,Who is to blame?? Schools-that are more focussed on making money more than anything now, teachers-who are just trying to finish their 7-3pm job somehow and get the monthly cash in hand or the parents-who seem to believe that educating their children is no longer their is a school's.After all..they don't pay that amount of money to school just for the heck of it!!

May be it is high time indeed for everyone to know that speaking perfect english and being cool is not the only sign of anybody being could look more like an ignorant fool, if these skills are used only as a mechanism to show off the X factor within one!!

Well, that's what the education world has come to...they seem to have invented a new maxim " everything is fair in the BUSINESS of EDUCATION-even...NON EDUCATION!!"